Musings On Motherhood
The way that we are taught to parent and raise our children is to have domination over them. But children aren’t our property nor are they the location where we should find our healing.
The expectation is that women who become mothers are supposed to not look like we’re mothers. We’re not supposed to carry the archive of change to our bodies and in our psyches. Instead, we’re sold “snap back” dreams and fed an urgency to get back to “normal” even though the transformation of motherhood is anything but normal and there is no going back.
When I think of the term single mother, it literally means to me a woman who is single and is a mother. Single, meaning her relationship status only, and not the essence of her parenting journey. The term doesn’t really say enough or provide enough context.
The mental energy that it takes to be a mother is next level. All of the remembering. All of the planning. All of the dreaming. All of the scheming. All of the worrying. All of the holding. All of the believing.
Our motherhoods don’t have to look alike to be respected, cherished, or valued.
Mothering is mothering is mothering.
Musings On Capitalism & Money
Musings On Business
There are so many tools available to those who are interested in starting their own business online. Here are a few that I recommend and enjoy.
America is one big political business ran by white men who are still reaping the rewards from systems created by the murder of Indigenous souls, the stealing of land, and the enslavement of Black people. That lineage touches and informs how we operate within business today. Even if we don't want it to. Even if we’re constantly unlearning and learning.
We can also broaden what we consider to be a business book so that we’re reading and engaging with material that is diverse, holistic and in support of the world in which we want to be a part of.
Capitalism is in the air that we breathe and infuses the ways we are taught to do and be in business, we must have an understanding of it in order to not adopt its insidious behaviors inside our very businesses. No matter how big or small.
“Charge what you’re worth” is one of the stupidest things said on these online/digital business streets and unfortunately, you’ll hear those words spoken a lot as an entrepreneur if you do most of your business in the digital space. We have to deeply remember that pricing is a complex topic with a high amount of nuance. We also have to remember that if we’re trying to do business in a non-extractive, non-oppressive, equitable way that our pricing will look very different from our peers and competitors.
Musings On Everything Else
We can’t always be agreeable. Sometimes (well a lot of times) our defiance is necessary energy.
We have been socialized to view the caretaking of people as solely the responsibility of women when really caretaking is people’s work. Not women’s work.